Quickly to explain my configuration:
I have only a TV in my living room. All of my other equipment (DVD, CD, AMP, VCR, and Sat receiver), is in another room. The remote controls every other piece of equipment from my living room. It is just the DVD which does not work. If I go into the room with the DVD and unplug the "command center" I can control the DVD by aiming the remote just about anywhere in the room. If I plug in the command center and cover the front (IR sender) of the 1995 remote (still in the same room as the DVD) I cannot control the Apex DVD anymore. However, I can control everything else in the room just fine.
I think I understand by reading the other posts that I should not try the upgrade that Nils was kind enough to upload (thanks Nils

!) as it looks as though it will not change anything. If this is incorrect, please let me know and I'll try the upgrade.
In the mean time, I am going to take Rob's advice and learn some buttons from my Apex remote into the 9910 and upload the file. I'll do that sometime tonight.
Thanks very much guys! It's really appreciated
Julie